The Flat Tire

Who you are

Just the two of you, and the energy simply isn't there. You ask what they want to do and get nothing. You offer something and get sure. One evening of that and the feeling is gone completely.

What you're reacting to isn't laziness, it's the sense of being the only engine. Carrying a whole evening by yourself is exhausting in a specific way, and your body worked out fast that it doesn't want a lifetime of it.

The blind spot is that low energy in private is sometimes comfort, not indifference. Some people stop performing once they trust you, and it can look identical to not caring — especially early, when you don't yet know their baseline.

Ask directly for one thing: pick where we go next time, anything you want. Their answer tells you which one it is.

You know it's you when…

• You have carried an entire evening alone and felt it end there
• Sure, whatever you want has genuinely finished it for you
• You needed one dead conversation to know for certain

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